So CA Bondage Club FAQ

Who can attend the meetings?
All men who are 18 years of age and over may attend our meetings. All ages and types of men are at our meetings. We do ask that you bring a photo ID in order to prove that you are over 18.

What is the crowd like?
The crowd is different each time. We get curious men from Southern California, visitors from all over the country and the world and our regular group of guys: many with years of experience and knowledge, some just starting to explore this side of life. You will find like-minded men looking for a unique experience in a safe place. We have been around for over 10 years - it's worked well for us: the crowd won't disappoint you.

What is the Dress Code?
There is no dress code: wear as much or as little as you want. We welcome men in leather, rubber, fetish gear, underwear, a jock strap, or nothing at all. Jeans and a T-shirt is OK, too. We leave it up to you.

I want to play. How do I get involved in a scene?
There is a subtle art of knowing when someone is interested in playing with you. The best way to initiate contact is to use body language and eye contact. Ease up to someone and let him know you're interested: start a chat, maybe a little tweak of the nipple or touch on the arm, leg or torso and wait for a response. You'll know if he's interested.

Most guys don't like someone sneaking up on them and just grabbing their crotch - don't do it. If the attraction is mutual, have fun. If not, a simple "No thanks" should do the job. If you approached someone, just walk away. Most guys are considerate and will leave you alone; if he approaches again, push his hand away, gently and firmly - that should do the trick. No one should force you to do anything you don't want to do. If you are concerned, contact one of the Dungeon Monitors (DMs).

What is "Scene Etiquette?"
Be respectful of others. There will be many different scenes going on during the meeting: some guys like a lot of group participation, some guys prefer one-on-one only. If you want to join in a scene, check with the Dom first. He is in control of the scene and should have discussed this possibility with the bottom; he will either allow (or not) more guys into the scene. Some scenes are very erotic, with many guys watching. Give the players some space: if you're close enough to touch, you're too close. Watch, enjoy, participate - just use a little common sense so that everyone will have a great time.

Is it safe to get involved in a scene?
It's always a matter of personal choice as to whether to get involved in any scene: no one is forced to participate. The Club is a safe way to meet guys who are into the B+D lifestyle. It is a semi-private/public space - most guys feel safer meeting someone the first time here, rather than getting involved in a scene in a private place. The Dungeon Monitors walk around, as well as guys who "self-police" the activities. These guys have much experience and help keep the action safe and fun for all.

What will my first meeting be like?
You'll probably be a little nervous when you first get to the club. Remember that everyone had a first time. Relax - let yourself enjoy the night. Walk around the space, check out the action, and maybe just watch for a little while. You'll see some scenes that excite you and some that don't do anything for you.

If you see something you like, go over, make appropriate eye contact and see what develops. Part of the allure of the club is being in a community of like-minded guys and being able to freely express yourself. Most guys who come to the meeting and want to play are able to find other guys who are into playing too.

The reality is that we have a mix of all kinds of people at the Club. If you keep an open mind, you should have a good time. If you have any concerns at any time, you can always check with the Dungeon Monitors or the person at the front door. They will be happy to assist you. Have a great time - the most difficult part of the evening was just walking into the Club - you'll be back soon for another great time.

What is a "safe" word?
We encourage discussion prior to getting involved in a scene: discuss your limits, preferences, and choose safe words. All activity must remain safe, sane, and consensual. A safe word is a word that lets the Dom know whether the bottom is having fun:

"Green" can mean "everything's fine, this is good"; for "Slow down, I'm not sure, I'm getting uncomfortable" we suggest "Yellow" and "Stop now, I'm done, this is over" we suggest "Red".

If the bottom is gagged, an appropriate non-verbal signal should be chosen. These limits and safe words must be respected! Failure to do so will result in immediate dismissal from the Club event!

What is the Club drug and alcohol policy?
No drugs are allowed in the space at any time. We strongly enforce the drug policy and you will be forced to leave if you violate this policy. No liquor is served at the club.

What is the Club policy on photography?
No cameras, cell phones, or picture taking is allowed, without the express consent and supervision of the DM, who assures that all parties in the picture consent to being photographed.

What is the Club privacy policy?
We respect your privacy. All information that you provide us remains confidential. We never release or give anyone your contact information or email. Most of our correspondence is by email; occasionally we send regular mail. If you don't want postal mail, don't fill in your address.

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